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This blog is for anyone who has experienced any kind of medical procedure or treament that has affected their sexual/reproductive organs and/or erogenous zones and is concerned about, or experiencing, challenges or changes regarding sexual health after that particular procedure/treatment. I am one of those people – I had a hysterectomy in February 2022. I’m a cisgender woman, personally, and because of who I am, my experiences and writing will be colored by that. However, this is for people of all genders. It’s about the trauma of medical intervention into intricate systems, and how it affects the sexual and sensual parts of ourselves (including the mind!) and how the way we experience sexual pleasure could change. I’ve read that for some, nothing changes, or it even gets better (because of lessened pain or dysphoria), but I’ve also seen a lot of evidence of lingering problems, even for years.
Everyone is different, and these kinds of issues affect us all differently. Some may not find their lives much impacted, but others will. Personally, I’m a very sex-positive individual with a high libido. While I had the hysterectomy to save my life and never would have chosen it otherwise, aside from my health and loss of reproductive ability, my main worry was how it would impact my sex life afterwards. I’m interested in the journey, with copious details and updates. I want it to be an ongoing conversation. I failed to find anything that satisfied me online regarding my type of surgery, so I decided to start this blog.
I should also say that it’s not just for people who have had treatment affecting their sex lives. It’s also for their partners, if they wish to participate. And really, for anyone curious about what it might be like to go through this type of thing, or anyone who likes the subject of sex in general. It’s not going to just be about possible complications, but joys, successes, and discoveries as well.
For me, sex is not a taboo subject, though it’s understandable for other people to have other comfort levels. I’m very open about it with most people. I merely use a pen name to separate this writing endeavor from my academic work. It’s not a secret. Many people in my life are aware I’m writing this (but not my doctoral advisor, because she’d worry it’s taking away from my dissertation).
When I’m passionate about something, I find it difficult to refrain from telling everyone all about it, and having survived my surgery and receiving a relatively optimistic pathology report, I’m currently consumed by worries and curiosities how this surgery will affect my sexual experience. I’m going to talk about how I’m feeling, what I’ve tried, how it felt, everything. Explicitly. This is because I feel that explaining what exactly I have tried and how exactly it felt is important to document the changes in my journey, over time.
If you do not feel comfortable with this level of openness and detail, this blog is probably not for you. I am not here to write erotica, but I will be very specific about my experiences, and I am hoping that guest contributors will also feel comfortable relating the minutiae of their experiences (whether writing anonymously or not). I’m also going to refer to peer-reviewed scholarly works on relevant subjects and link to blog and vlog posts that I have found to be valuable. I should also warn you that I will probably use swear words whenever I feel like it.
I’m open to questions and suggestions, as long as they are respectful and well-intentioned, but please understand that this is my little corner of cyberspace, and the final decision is still mine.
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